Parenting

Ten Things To Tell Yourself When You Feel You Failed As A Parent

Most of the time we are really confident about our parenting and then there are days when we feel like a complete failure. The situation goes out of hands and we just get confused. These are the times when we start wondering if we were even ready to have a child or if  we will ever be good parents.

These are the things you should remind yourself whenever you feel you failed as a parent:

I am an awesome mom, one little setback cannot make me a bad parent. Tomorrow will definitely be better.

 

I am just too tired/stressed and that’s why I am seeing so much of negativity in the smallest of things. I just need some rest and I will be back to being a super parent. So what the child did not eat the vegetables or finished the milk or even threw tantrum in the market. It’s just a phase. BREATHE IN, BREATHE OUT AND SLEEP.

 

It is not just this moment that is going to build my child’s character. I am not perfect and no one is. I cannot expect my child to be at her best all the time. I need to take a chill pill.

 

Plan my darling, plan again. SO what my Plan H failed, there are 18 more letters left. I just need to strategize better the next day.

 

My baby needs to learn discipline and for that, if I have to be the bad mom sometimes, it’s all cool I think. Nahi Kya!

 

I think I have set my standards too high. Let’s just tweek it a bit. Instead of two chapatis, let us just make peace with one and a half. I expect too much from myself, do all the chores, be a perfect mom, sometimes letting the task list relax a bit as well is not a bad idea.

 

Being a parent is DIFFICULT. I don’t know about others but I think being a parent is hard. Keeping my toddler in control or disciplined all the time is difficult and I am bound to fail sometimes.

 

STOP IMAGINING. Nobody’s house is super clean, well-managed the way you think it must be. Every house with a child is just like yours because that reflects life. Nobody enjoys preparing four meals a day, the pics that you see on Instagram, that’s not how other moms are preparing food every day. There are days when the family needs to eat khichdi, corn flakes or wada pao. AGAIN SWEETHEART, BREATHE IN, BREATHE OUT.

 

She is just a baby. You just have to relax. Let her be a child – untamed, unrestricted, free. When was the last time you felt free as a grown up… never. There is always some responsibility. Let your child enjoy her own freedom. Let her jump in puddles, let her scream and throw tantrums, let her enjoy being pampered and loved, let her be the baby boss sometimes.

 

As long as my baby wants to snuggle close to my heart, wants to hug me and cuddle me, I think I am not a bad parent.

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7 replies »

  1. Thank for this post. After reading I am bit relaxed now. I have to struggle a lot to make them study, eat and sometimes be in discipline, there are times when everything is not in favour. And that was making me feel that something is wrong in my parenting. Stress too! Yes, perfection is not necessary everytime. And parenting is hard too. I would love to read this again and again.

  2. You are so right. We all have those moments where we question our own behaviour and decisions. At the end of the day we have a job to do and that is to guide our children to the best of our abilities. It is often those times when we lay strict guidelines that our children thank us for. Questioning yourself is a sign you are a great parent!

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